If you're married you know how seasons come along where it becomes sometimes more difficult to keep your "dating life" going strong. After a very busy summer for our family, and the start of the school year/church ministries/etc, I felt like my marriage had reached that season. Although Scott and I spent a lot of time together this summer, we were always busy and on-the-go with family, and I began to feel like we never spent time alone, dating each other like we used to. Married couples know all too well that sometimes "life" gets in the way of your marriage. There comes a time where marriage isn't "easy" anymore, and sometimes you really have to "work" at it.
I started following people on Twitter that were offering great, Godly marital advice. Through one of them I found this website called www.thedatingdivas.com It is awesome! You have to check it out. They post tons of date ideas along with a bunch of other really helpful advice! Scott and I have made a commitment to going on a date once a week where 2 dates a month can cost $$$, but the other 2 are usually cheap ideas (like a movie date at home after the kids are asleep). A lot of my date plans have come from ideas I saw on the Dating Divas website. It's helped to put the romance and excitement back into dating my husband again.
One note that may be helpful for other wives out there. I began to feel like there wasn't enough romance in my marriage. I held very high expectations for my husband and the dates he was to plan, but always felt let-down. Don't get me wrong, any time alone with Scott was great, but I always hoped for this super-romantic, Hollywood movie-worthy date night, and was left disappointed. Not only are those expectations unrealistic, but we all know the danger of placing super-high expectations on our spouse. I kept thinking if Scott would be more romantic, then we'd have a better marriage. Then, one night we co-planned a date night. We went to a bowling alley and played 3 games, then played a game of laser tag, and finished off with ice cream at Marble Slab. This date might not seem over-the-top, but honestly, it was one of my favorite dates to memory! The reason being, we LAUGHED together. Somehow in the busyness of "life" I forgot how important laughter is in the life of marriage. I forgot that before I met Scott if you asked me what I was looking for in a husband I would have said, "someone that makes me laugh". All of a sudden that night while we were bowling, laughing, and having fun together I realized THAT'S what was missing. So, my advice would be, maybe your marriage is missing laughter. It is so important to laugh together, and in our case, sometimes AT each other! ;)
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